As per writing, there is no good way to send condolences to someone who has just experienced a loss. This is especially true if the recipient of your letter is a person who just lost someone who was close to them or a family member, for that matter. Although this is not an ideal situation and the least people look forward to, sending your full sympathies can be very highly appreciated in time of the loss of a loved one.
I understand that expressing condolences can be a challenging task, particularly when consoling someone who has recently lost a dear one. In such moments, words often fall short, struggling to encapsulate the depth of sorrow one feels. It’s important to remember that there’s no ‘perfect’ way to convey condolences. What matters most is the genuine care and empathy that underlies your message. Sometimes, a simple heartfelt note or a warm gesture can provide solace far beyond what words can express. Sharing stories and memories of the departed can also be a powerful way to honor their legacy and offer comfort to those left behind. Remember, in times of loss, your presence and support can mean more than you may ever realize.
“It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.”
How to start?
Unfortunate as it may seem, extend your sympathy towards the recipient. It may not be much but it helps a lot for those who are grieving, to know that someone out there is with them in their suffering.
How to write the content?
Start with the #throwback of good memories with the departed. It may hurt a little but the comfort of knowing that somehow their loved one has touched another being can mean a lot for those whom the departed left behind.
How to end the letter?
End your letter with your deepest regret that this moment has come. If you want, you can also put messages about life and offer yourself emotional support. Your offer of support will be very much appreciated and will come back to you in your trying times.
Nothing beats a heartfelt letter with the purest intention and nothing beats a person with compassion and a shoulder to cry on.